Japanese dating and marriage traditions
Sometimes this is done by the marriage-seeker’s own relatives, and in that case profiles are circulated amongst (usually) mothers.Mothers do tend to get involved in the marriage process in Japan as much as they possibly can, although I suspect this is quite common everywhere! The undoubtedly nervous subjects are often accompanied by their mothers and fathers at this first meeting, as in Japan it is not just important to match with your potential partner, but also with their family.Nowadays, the average age of marriage has steadily increased to 29 for women and 31 for men, and unmarried women can tend to live their lives without much hassle.However, it is still a societal norm to marry before having children and moving in with a partner, and social pressure is strong for people in their late 20’s and 30’s to get married and have a family.Arranged marriage is a practice which is both controversial and a historically significant societal function.
One of the reasons why the pre-marriage meetings are not drawn out is that the agencies are very expensive and charge a high amount of money to people on their books.
For example, traditionally the age that people were expected to be married in Japan was 25 for women and 30 for men.
Women who were not married by 25 were often slandered and seen as past their expiry date.
Zenkoku Nakodo Rengokai is the name of the National Matchmaking Association in Japan, and it tends to follow traditional rules.
It gives advice to its clients regarding how to attract potential partners and works with clients to choose a list of people they might be interested to meet.