Indian girls dating white men
My guess is that I would be getting a few congratulatory thumps on the back instead.
When Indian women, who are generally considered to be less desirable in Singapore for aforementioned reasons, date white men, this upsets the racial hierarchy in Singapore which places slim, porcelain-skinned Chinese women at the top of the totem pole and dusky Indian women at the bottom.
He insists on dividing the household chores and care-giving responsibilities equally.
It may not seem like much, but active awareness can do a lot to even the playing field, in a sphere as small and as private as the home.
The surprised looks by strangers were one thing, but the harsh comments made to me by fellow Indians, especially men, implying that I had somehow betrayed Indian men as a collective, came as quite a shock to me.
I have been trying to grapple with this response and believe it all boils down, as do most issues, to racism and sexism.
It upsets gender roles that seemingly entitle men to women of the same ethnic group.
The dark skin and curly hair that I was ridiculed for in Singapore were admired and complimented for the first time in my life.Even evolutionary biology would disagree with this explanation, as interracial relationships are biologically advantageous.Instead, I believe this is the result of what Elizabeth Spelman called “the ampersand problem.” I am caught within a blend of both patriarchal AND racist structures when I am criticized for my choice in partner.Another 12.7% took place between Caucasian grooms and Chinese brides.Indian grooms and Chinese brides rounded up the top 5 ethnic group combinations at 5.2%.I wanted to sink into the floor when my teacher in Secondary School declared that she, a Chinese woman, would never date an Indian man.So you can imagine my genuine surprise when I flew to Europe for a university exchange programme and started to be on the receiving end of a fair amount of male attention.Some of my male Indian friends have remarked to me that my decision to date a Caucasian man, presumably before other Indian men, speaks to a broader pre-occupation with the white male ideal.These friends have even implied that it is insincere of me to be critical of heterosexual white male privilege and date a white man at the same time.Would seeing a Caucasian man and a Chinese woman together elicit the same reaction?Strangely, the most disapproving looks I have received are from fellow Indians.