Dating a girl with borderline personality
That’s not to say more accurate glimpses of BPD aren’t lurking in plain view all across popular culture.
They are evident in songs, and in TV shows and films, often capturing BPD’s primary traits: fear of abandonment, feeling unlovable, hypersexuality, and impulsive behaviors.
You know the bubble is going to pop; the fun is in never knowing when or why.
The central issue is that BPD is based around feelings.
Primarily embraced by various forms of media (check its extensive TV Tropes page), it also manifests itself in everyday life.
The trope lambasts women for having emotions, existing mostly to invalidate feelings and to over-exaggerate the reaction women have for not accepting being ghosted, played, or treated poorly.
I was so concerned with not making the mistakes of my first relationship again that I clung for months of intoxicating codependency.
People diagnosed with BPD are as much as three times more likely to be women than men, which doesn’t help with the inherent misogyny surrounding how people think about the condition.
While these representations are regularly problematic, there are some that seize the essence of BPD and help to communicate its existence, flattering or otherwise.
Perhaps most pointedly, there is the psycho ex-girlfriend trope.
If you’re looking for a condition that blends anxiety, depression, OCD, disordered eating, anger issues, and more into the world’s least appealing smoothie, BPD is for you.
Having BPD is like living in a bubble floating in a hazy world of detachment.