Reasons why dating is important
Trust me it saves both parties a hell of a lot of heartache to just not lie in general. And he said he has an allergic reaction and was given a shot and antibiotics. I live in LA, and men lie here ALL the time – and the lies aren’t even for good intention like to protect me or show off. He lies about things to my face, and I know he is lying. “I was outside on my lunch break at work, and I was standing next to “John”, and he was smoking it.” “Thats why you smell it on me”. That still didn’t explain why, when he kissed me, I could taste it on his lips, and smell it on his breath.
Or don’t put yourself into positions where you have to lie! I’m obviously screenshotting every text to my girlfriends, and almost all of them go “you don’t get antibiotics for an allergic reaction.” So, now I’m like – LIAR. And then later that day, he was pretending to buy aa house near his apartment on IG story. Either he took a hit from “John’s” pipe/joint, or he was kissing someone who was smoking it. He says he smokes pot to relieve back pain from a herniated disk in his cervical spine. That said, I think there are some screwed up things going on where he works.
As a guy, I would agree with you but coming from a gay man who dated other men, your reasons for lying are like another man lying about the reasons he’s lying. The truth will eventually come out and it hurts more to know that you’ve been lying. (At the time I felt like he was lying so I wasn’t overly sympathetic.) then he texted me that he found a free walkin clinic (at am on a Sat) on a particular street.
Yeah of course it hurts to know the truth up front but it’s worse to continue to lie and lie and lie because in the end it’s worse knowing you didn’t give them the truth. So my “used to be lied to” ass googles open clinics in that area, and they’re all closed by 8pm. So then the next morning, I follow up asking if he’s Ok.
The lies u talk about in your article are not what breaks up a relationship. I have a cousin with MS, and she uses marijuana to relieve her symptoms. A lot of his co workers smoke pot on their breaks/lunches and then go back to work.
A man who promises certain behavior that his partner also promises i.e. I don’t think its necessary for someone to do that. I don’t have a problem with him smoking it to relieve pain. In spite of everyone saying that Pot isn’t physically addictive, a person can still become addicted to it. What I have a problem with is someone who uses substances to escape their lives.
These days, people are quick to throw the concept of neediness around without actually looking at what it is.
Rob doesn’t accuse me of sleeping with every male that I say “Hi” to.
If u catch your friend or lover in one lie…be assured it is just the tip of the iceberg and u need to dump this person ASAP. The liar is wrong and that is just unacceptable behavior, so go find someone who is trustworthy. It has to do with his pure lack of moral ethics (selfishness) on how to treat a woman. He is an almost 50 year old man, a business professional, not a 20 year old surfer/stoner dude.
When u lie to someone, u are really saying that person is not worth the truth ! You find him in a lie, yes, it is just the tip of the iceberg like Rita says. Stand strong in not excepting less than what you know you deserve. Sometimes I think the pot is more important to him than me.
Rob doesn’t ride past my house to make sure no other cars are there, either.
In order to have a truly fulfilling relationship (or even start a healthy relationship) with a great guy, you need to come from a place of strength, confidence, and fulfillment.